Today was a day of accomplishment and it was also a day of setback. It wasn't neither my accomplishment, nor was it my setback, but the accomplishment and setback of a little girl who is now no longer in my care. Many people within my little sphere of influence know, and many people may not know, that I work at a preschool as a Teacher's Assistant. It is a position that is both glorious and tragic, amazing and gut wrenching, hilariously awesome and hair-pullingly (is that even proper English?) awful. There are many other words that can be used to explain what it is like to work in childcare and education, but that is not the purpose of this post. This post is about a little girl.
Before I begin explaining her accomplishment and setback, I will give a brief explanation of her history. Her age is two years and a half (2.5 years), and for those of you who are parents and/or work with children, you will know that this is age where the parent(s) attempt(s) to put the child through potty training. Now, this girl is in a bit of a predicament: she is in foster care and is not potty trained. These two facts put those of us who work with her in a predicament that required some wondering: how long will she be with us and will we be able to potty train (even in the slightest sense of the term) her while not neglecting the other children in our care? The reason I pose the question of how long she'll be with us is because foster children are not always in one home, they tend to bounce around from house to house, which puts them into a situation of not really knowing who they can trust and in a situation of possibly moving from school to school, daycare to daycare.
This is a very simple explanation an issue that is far more complex. Back to our little girl.
At two years and half, she is not potty trained and her care-taker/foster parent was making no effort in training her, which is a major injustice to this little girl because she will have to learn at some point because this girl cannot live her whole life wearing diapers. Anyhow, every single day this little girl would set foot into the preschool, without fail, she would have multiple accidents due to her not going to the bathroom on a toilet. Every single teacher, every single teacher's assistant (TA) would try to take her to the bathroom only to be met with crying and wailing. This little girl was stressed by the whole ordeal. Every single time that I would take her to the bathroom, I would tell her that the reason why we would try to have her go to potty on the toilet was because we cared about her (which is the truth) and that we wanted the best for her. I would also tell her that she could trust every single person who worked at the preschool because we all cared about her, so if she needed to go potty, then she could come to any teacher and ask them to take her to the bathroom before she had an accident. Plus, if she went potty on the toilet, I would give her a treat.
I said this every single time I took her to go potty.
She kept having accidents and she would not say anything until after the fact. Plus, whenever I took her to sit on a toilet, no matter how much I tried to bribe her with treats, the only things she would do were cry and refuse to go to the bathroom, resulting in her having an accident not even five minutes later.
She has been at the preschool for about a month and all of us who work at the school knew that this week was her last week, though most of us did not know when her last day was. This morning, Monday the 21 of April, 2014, this little girl walked up to me during morning play time, grabbed my hand and pulled me to the bathroom while stating she needed to potty. While this was happening, I was checking to see if her pants were wet because normally when she would say that she needed to potty, what she was really saying was that she had already had an accident and needed to be changed. She had no wet pants and when we got to the bathroom, she walked into the stall, asked me to hold the door closed, and successfully went potty on the toilet without any crying or wailing.
She successfully went potty on the toilet without any crying or wailing.
This was her accomplishment. This was her success.
Of course, I could not stop gushing how excited I was that she went potty on the toilet and how proud of her I was (which is the truth). After hand washing, I gave her the treat that I had been promising her, which was a jelly bean. I have never seen a jelly bean be gobbled down so quickly.
This evening after my co-workers and I finished our end-of-the-day duties, recollected how this little girl had successfully gone to the bathroom without having an accident, there was excitement in the room, though the excitement did not last for very long. The assistant director of the preschool informed all of us that today was the last day that this little girl was to be with us. This was it. She ended her time with us on a good note, but how will she do in the next school? Will she continue to push forward and continue to succeed?
This is her setback. There is the possibility of her continued success, yet, there is also the possibility of her regressing back into failure.
Those of us who had worked with her as closely as we did knew that if she had stayed in our preschool, we knew that she would continue to progress. The only thing I can do now is pray to God that she continues to succeed, for her time with me is done and the only thing that I can do is trust that God knows what's best for this little girl.